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HOW TO POLITELY KICK OUT A PESKY HOUSE GUEST THAT WON'T LEAVE

 

knockingHaving a guest can be fun and add extra excitement to your household but what do you do when your house guest won’t leave? They start becoming a permanent fixture in your beautiful abode! Panic sets in and you wonder, how do you throw your a friend or family member out without damaging the relationship?

It can be hard to give your beloved guest the boot but I am here to let you know there are classy, subtle ways of kicking out your house guest who has overstayed their welcome. Your going to have to put some work in on your end and do your part to get that pesky guest out, but the reward will be well worth it. It's time to take back what is yours - let the battle begin!

Apartment Searching. This is the first step to the path of peace and quiet. Suggest to your guest that you would love to help them with their apartment search. Then, designate a time every week that the two of you sit down and look together – this will plant the seed in your guests’ head and light the fire (fingers crossed). Hey, you could even suggest they checkout the Shea Apartment Communities, I heard their pretty awesome ;)

Request Private Time. It’s your house and your paying the bills so designate a day or two a week that your house guest must leave, you can suggest a couple hours or the whole evening. I vote for the whole evening, your guest should start to get the hint and begin looking for a new place to stay without you even saying a word.

Find Stuff To Do. No one wants to be told what to do, but when someone is staying at your apartment free and clear – there are no rules! Start finding your guest some odd end jobs or community events to attend; they might start feeling like their living with their mother and I am certain they will leave soon.

Chores. Everyone has to do their part in a household and since your guest has decided to raid your space, give them some chores – all of them if you'd would like. Just another subtle way to jump start your guest to start looking for thier own apartment without being rude.

Interrupt Their Daily Routine. People get into daily routines when they become comfortable where they are living, so jump right into your guests' daily routine and jolt it off track. This will get under your guests' skin and if you start annoying them, they are almost out the door.

AND if all else fails just sit your guest down and TELL THEM. Make sure you begin with “I truly care about you” and then followed by “but the apartment is becoming a little too crowded”. Give your guest an eviction date and assure them that you will help out in whatever way you can. 

This is not a comfortable situation and no one wants to confront it dead-on, but sometimes a guest can be hard to shake off and you need to use the direct approach. Good Luck!

Have you had to throw out a house guest? Any pointers?

Comments

One of my friend's is currently experiencing this bad situation...his friend was supposed to only stay for a few days, but that has now turned into 2 months--and counting!! Don't let this same shitty situation happened to you--put your foot down with houseguests!!!
Posted @ Wednesday, August 15, 2012 5:44 PM by Kelly
Depending on if you rent or not. The thing that worked the best with me is informing your friends your apartment knows you are violating your lease by having guests there past 14 days. Literally just tried that and it worked perfectly! no hard feelings at all.
Posted @ Tuesday, April 23, 2013 5:09 PM by amy
I have a problem...a year ago I allowed a friend and her 17 year old daughter to stay with me.long story short...they wouldn't abide by the rules so I put them out after 3 months. A year later she comes back again with her daughter; but now she's pregnant. She keeps saying she will be out by the end of even month but each month turns into next month. All I get from her is excuses. She and her daughter are very manipulative. I have given her till the end of October but she is trying to stay another month. I feel bad because she's pregnant and she's due in December. I am frustrated about the whole situation and ready to set their belongings out on the porch. They are not taking this seriously. Please help!! 
Posted @ Monday, October 28, 2013 12:17 AM by teresaa Higgins
Hello Teresaa -- Yikes that sounds like a tough one! I have heard of people in similar situations and it is not easy, but you are just going to have to put your foot down. If your deadline is the end of October, then continue to repeat yourself and reiterate you are no longer extending your invitation. At the end of the month get the keys back and move your friend along. You are in a tough situation, but stand your ground and your friend should be out in no time. Best of luck! HP
Posted @ Monday, October 28, 2013 11:31 AM by Heather Phillipson
I have two adults who are refusing to leave. I have asked them to leave and they refuse to leave. They do not get mail here, but they have been here for more than 30 days. I need them to get out of my house! Please help. 
 
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Posted @ Tuesday, February 04, 2014 10:44 PM by Loving Mama'
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